Accordingly, let our third goal in the most beautiful Ramadan is to reconcile discords among us. This goal is composed of two parts:

1-   To reconcile discords between you and others.

2-   To reconcile discords between the disputing parties you may know, even if you were not one party of them.

No doubt that Ramadan is a great chance to reconcile discords, especially when Satan is the instigator for discords. In this regard, the Messenger “PBUH” said: (you should hold to the group and avoid dispersion, because Satan is closer to the sole than to the two. Whoever Muslim longs for the affluence of paradise, he should hold to the group.[1])

Satan wants loneliness for man to easily seduce him.

On the family sphere, the most valuable deeds for Satan by which he feels proud is to disperse the husband from his wife. Jabir “May Allah be pleased with him” related that the Messenger “PBUH” said: (the devil puts his throne on water and sends his delegates, the closest Satan to the devil is the one causing fatal affliction; a Satan comes and say: I made so and so, the devil replies: you made nothing, namely how trifle your action. Another Satan says: I was not satisfied until I left so and so have divorced his wife, the devil draws him near and says: yes, it is you.[2])

Devil takes dispersion among couples among his priorities.

In fact, devil succeeded in doing that to large extent.

Statistics suggest that 155.300 divorce cases a year in Egypt, rating a divorcee every two minutes[3].

It is not restricted to Egypt, ratios of divorce in the Arab world are very high where it amounted to 21% a year divorces cases.

United Arab Emirates, for example, the ratio of divorces reached 46%, 385 in Qatar and 35% in Kuwait[4].

These rations are concerning the irrevocable divorce cases. However, if we reviewed the ratios of marital disputes, it may be occurring at every Muslim home, it leads to more hideous consequences, like dissociation inside homes, outside homes in most, violence in treatment among couples, and other serious marital disputes which affect children.

Devil is very successful with all measures in this area, which opens the door wide for your efforts in reconciliation, whether inside your home, homes of relatives, neighbors or colleagues, especially in Ramadan where devils are chained and hearts become tender in these blessed days, so the chance in reconciliation doubles.

Therefore, review the list of your acquaintances and find those whom you are in bad terms with them, regardless of who is the offender!  Do not make reconciliation contingent on being the oppressed, however, seek the example from the Hadith of the Prophet which related by Abu-Hurairah that a man came to the Messenger and asked: O Messenger of Allah! I have relatives with whom I maintain relations, but they break it, I do good for them, but they do bad for me, and I bear their offenses against me, but they wrong me more. The Prophet replied: if the case is as you say, you would be as if fill their mouths with hot ash, and a supporter from Allah backs you so long as you keep this condition.[5])

By reconciling discords with others whether on personal or group spheres, you would gain the support of Allah Almighty for you, and the punishment would befall who wrongs you. In this regard, the Prophet said: (The Wassil “maintainer for ties with relatives” is not reciprocator; however, Wassil is the one who keeps maintaining relations with relatives, even if they broke it.[6])

Such Wassil is the one whose ranks is superior than that of the fasting one, the one standing in prayer at night, and the one spending his wealth in charity.

The believer should not be satisfied by maintain the relations with his kinship, but he should increase his righteous deeds through reconciling among the disputing people. This is one of the best deeds, as Allah Almighty says: (No good is there in much of their private conversation, except for those who enjoin charity or that which is right or conciliation between people. And whoever does that seeking means to the approval of Allah - then We are going to give him a great reward.), An-Nisaa, 114.

All speech is useless unless these three, so do not isolate yourself in this blessed month, Ramadan, from sharing this reward.

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